WHY did I download Tinder?

Okay, quick back story. In 2012/2013 I went through a very bad time in my life. Long story short, I took a break from dealing with guys in any way until January of 2016 (was focused on putting my life/myself back together) . Well needless to say 6 months later I am still being mind fucked daily. I don’t know if it’s just me, as a result of this 3 year break, or if everyone is dealing with this bullshit. But guys I can’t deal!!!!! So I decided to document some of my favourite experiences dealing with males for your enjoyment. 

This particular story begins on Tinder. Yes you read that right. I know, I know. It’s Tinder, what did I expect? Well damn, I expected something better than this. Guys I was bored and wanted to see what the hype was about. So I made an account (it links to your Facebook), put that I wasn’t looking to hook up and went on to spend most of my time swiping left (like 95% of time). Anyways I swiped left on a couple guys and had matches. Based on my experience I got either: a corny line (NEXT), a sexual comment somewhere within the first few messages (NEXT), or a guy that actually seemed decent (POTENTIAL??).

This one particular guy seemed to have potential. Personal trainer, cute, older, nice and has his shit together. So I gave him my number, we talked a bit, I made it clear that I wasn’t looking for a hook up/one night stand and we set up a day to meet and place to meet, cause we were just going to be friends. 7:30 pm on a Saturday at a popular mall. Well the day comes and I get busy and realize I won’t make it home before 9:00 pm. So I offer to reschedule. But he insists that after 9 is ok and we can still meet. This is the conversation that follows… Girl, I’m putting a real life screenshot, we are now friends 🙂

GUYS, I have no words. First, he didn’t even offer to meet at any actual place. Just outside a mall. Is he serious? Does he seriously think that this is even an option? I had no problem meeting later, but meeting in the dark in a deserted place???? Shitttttttt. We could’ve met at Starbucks or McDonalds. I’m not bougie. I really don’t care. But in front of a deserted mall? I’d rather not experience a real life episode of criminal minds. I don’t know why he thought that this option was safe for him or me? We’re meeting off an app. Common sense is to meet in a public place… On top of that he pulled a classic guy line. Tried to make me seem immature by asking if we we’re still in grade 9? Nice try. You will not manipulate me into doing something by making it seem like I’m acting like a child. In fact, in grade 9 I probably would have met him in the dark in front of a deserted mall. Wanna know why? Because I didn’t know better. I’m 20 and I definitely know better. I’m not going to put myself in a potentially dangerous situation for some guy off of tinder. I get it. You don’t feel like a creep/threat, that’s cool, but I don’t know you. And until I do, I’m going to apply common sense and you should too!

Needless to say I won’t be talking to him again. And I’ve deleted the app. This is just one of the many interesting experiences I’ve had off of tinder and I’m not dealing with this shit anymore. So goodbye Tinder, it was not fun at all… why did I even download you?

If you or anyone you know has experienced anything similar on Tinder please share. I hope I’m not alone 🙂

yourgirlj

Netflix: Top 5 Lighthearted Shows

 

Hello, my name is J and I am a Netflix addict. Okay, there I said it. But who isn’t nowadays? Any avid, binge-prone Netflix junkie has faced this dilemma: should I watch this show right before bed? I mean watching a veterinarian re-attach T-Bag’s hand or Hannibal prepare his next meal may be tolerable during the day, but unless you want your dreams filled with Buffy fighting the Big Bad or Grimlocks stealing your site, a lighter option is desired. Let’s face it, if you’re anything like me, sometimes you just don’t want to watch anything too heavy or complicated. Well, I have a solution to your problem, here are my top 5 lighthearted, funny, easy to watch shows. You’re welcome *Sadie voice*

#5 That 70s Show

If you’re not afraid of Red’s foot going up your ass or Jackie’s backhanded compliments, then That 70s Show is for you. The short 20 minute episodes are light and funny, enjoy the 8 seasons of them. It’s not necessary to watch every single episode, even though I did, so if you fall asleep and miss a couple it’s all good. Although, I definitely don’t agree with everything said on this show, it is a good option for my fellow Netflix junkies, if you want to keep it light and fun.

#4 The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air

This is a story all about how this show will flip your life up-side down, so take a minute and lay down in bed, while I tell you about the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. The episodes are 20 minutes long and easy to watch, but don’t worry it’ll take you at least a couple of days to binge-watch 6 seasons. The show provides lighthearted humour but also tackles real-life issues, like having an absent parent or struggling to find your place. Will Smith is an amazing actor and it’s hard to not fall in love with his character, so enjoy the late nights, or for us Netflixers early mornings, watching this show.

#3 Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt 

This show is fun, fresh and inspiring! Unfortunately there has only been 1 season so far and the episodes are only 20 minutes long, but it’s a must see. Kimmy is a positive, optimistic character, who you can’t help but love and laugh at. Since watching this show I have used the count down from 10 method in my life and it works! This show delivers a strong message while using a spectrum of diverse, unique characters, ultimately reminding you that anything can be overcome and that even the worse things in life don’t last forever.

#2 The Mindy Project

The Mindy Project brings forth a strong, hilarious female lead and will have you cracking up at 2 in the morning. I don’t think there has been a single episode that hasn’t cracked me up thus far. Danny’s hard, New Yorker attitude doesn’t last long as he soon reveals a very soft, momma loving side that’ll have you blushing. Don’t worry, although the main characters are Gynecologists the show doesn’t revolve around pregnancies and diseases. But it has however helped turn my frown upside down on many bad days! Episodes are 20 minutes long and the show is still running, Netflix currently has the first 3 seasons.

#1 Friends

January 2015 marked a very important moment in history: Friends was finally added to Netflix. You may pivot in your seat or have random urges to deep clean your home, but despite all that this show takes the number 1 spot in my heart. It’s funny, easy to follow, lighthearted and episodes are only 20 minutes long, but don’t worry you have 10 seasons worth of them. Just remember, when life gets hard Friends will be there for you.

*side note* this is my dysfunctional word so except anything from this blog. I’m a writer and express myself through my work, so what I produce really depends on my mood. Sometimes I will write something light, like this post and sometimes we will get a lot deeper, no pun intended. I’d love if you would follow me on this journey xo yourgirlj. 

Hello and welcome to my dysfunctional world!

This is my first post on world press and I’m very excited. I usually only write in notebooks and sometimes on my phone, but hopefully here I can get my work out and maybe someone can relate, hopefully. My main goal is to motivate myself to write because it helps me live a more fulfilled, happy life. So to start things off, I’m going to keep it light, hope you enjoy. Let me know if you liked it or not, constructive criticism is always welcome and I don’t have a title so I’d love suggestions, xo yourgirlj.